How to Get Unstuck in Your Creative Life—My Philosophy of Formation: A Practical Guide to Finding Your Voice, Rekindling Your Light, and Pursuing Meaningful Work
If How I Study was about how I gather light, then this post is about how I help others find the light inside their own work.
There’s a moment I live for in nearly every coaching session. It’s not when the outline gets refined or the brand language clicks into place—though those are great too.
It’s the moment when someone sees their idea again. The light flickers back on. They remember what it was like when they first felt the heat of a phrase, a story, a truth they knew was theirs to carry.
That’s the moment I care about.
Because most people don’t need more information—they need illumination. They need to believe that what they’re holding—some fragile ember of a thought—is worth protecting and pursuing. That it matters.
And that’s what I do. I help people find the light again. And then I help them form it—into words, into work, into a way of being.
Formation Isn’t a Formula
If you’re coming to this from my last post, How I Study, you might expect a system: Part 1, Part 2, etc.
But formation doesn’t work like that.
Formation is not a technique. It’s a posture. A lived orientation toward meaning, depth, and creative integrity.
That means when I help people develop their work, I’m not just helping them “optimize.” I’m helping them realign. We start asking different questions.
Not: What’s the market want right now?
But: What’s the truest thing you’ve ever said out loud?
Not: What’s your audience expect from you?
But: What do you carry that no one else can carry?
Not: What platform are you building?
But: What light are you refusing to let go of?
This is where we begin. With the light.
But What Is the Light?
Sometimes people ask me what I mean by “light” in the context of creative work. The metaphor holds a lot for me.
Light is clarity. Illumination. The sudden aha of an idea you can’t shake. But it’s also more than that—it’s what pulls you forward.
It’s the flicker of conviction in the dark. The moment you realize: I do have something to say. And it matters.
The tragedy is that many people lose that light. Not because they don’t have ideas—but because their ideas are in constant battle with a cultural mindset of fear, scarcity, and self-doubt.
We live in a world that says: Be careful. Don’t say too much. Don’t risk being wrong. You’re not the kind of person who gets to make things like that.
And yet—every so-called influencer, every author, every builder you admire? They were once exactly where you are. Sitting on a strange little ember of an idea, wondering if they had what it takes. The only difference?
They followed the light.
The Culture Will Dim You. You Can Still Choose Light.
I can’t tell you how many people I’ve coached—authors, entrepreneurs, mentors, artists—who carry quiet brilliance but feel trapped by the shape others have imposed on them.
They’ve been successful, maybe even highly visible. But inside, they’re wrestling.
“I have more to say than people realize.”
“I have ideas that don’t fit the mold I’m known for.”
“I’m scared to pursue this new thing because what if it doesn’t work?”
This is normal. It’s not a flaw. It’s what happens when the culture trains you to edit your soul before you even speak.
But what if you didn’t?
What if you let the ember burn?
What if you believed that illumination is already inside you?
That’s the first shift of creative formation. And it changes everything.
Because once you remember the light, you can begin the slow, rigorous, freeing work of giving it form.
Diamond Drill, Not Scatterplot
Here’s where rigor comes in—but not the kind people dread.
Creative rigor isn’t about control or perfectionism. It’s about depth.
Most people chase too many ideas at once. They gather little gems: a post here, a pitch there, a project they’re 40% excited about.
But the real breakthrough comes when you pick the diamond and drill deep. Not in a performative, hustle way—but in a holy, singular way.
One idea. One true thing. Go deep enough, and that diamond starts splitting. One becomes many. You realize this thing you’re holding—this thing you almost gave up on—contains multitudes.
That’s when the work expands. That’s when it begins to live.
And this is where something deeper comes into play—something many of us sense but haven’t fully named.
Because what we’re really talking about isn’t just strategy or structure. It’s aesthetics. Not in the limited sense of surface beauty, but in the ancient sense: a pursuit of meaning.
Aesthetics as Meaning-Making
I’ve studied C.S. Lewis for years. One of his greatest influences was E.R. Bevan, who helped shape Lewis’s understanding of beauty—not as ornament, but as orientation. As pursuit. As meaning.
Roger Scruton later echoed this: “Aesthetics is the pursuit of meaning.”
That line stays with me. Because when I talk with the people I mentor, they aren’t just trying to make things that look good. They’re trying to live lives that mean something.
They’re not just launching books or blogs or businesses.
They’re naming their longing. They’re answering their ache.
They’re finding their way back to the light.
And that’s why formation matters.
Because creative formation isn’t just about producing something.
It’s about becoming someone.
Someone who can hold the tension.
Someone who can do the deep work.
Someone who can believe in the light they carry—and follow it all the way through.
The Formation Reset: What To Do When Your Light Feels Dimmed
If you’re feeling stuck—creatively, vocationally, or spiritually—it’s not because you don’t have ideas. It’s because the light inside them has been muffled by fear, distraction, or external pressure.
But there is a way out.
Here’s the reset I often give to those I mentor—think of it as a way to get out of your head and back into the light:
Remember the Point.
Like a hitter in a slump, creatives often forget the point of what they’re doing. The point isn’t perfection. It’s not performance. It’s illumination. So ask yourself: What truth was I trying to carry into the world in the first place?Recover the Embers.
That moment you almost whispered—the fragile idea that felt too tender to share? That’s the ember. Return to it. Write it down. Say it out loud. Protect it, not because it’s perfect, but because it’s yours.Drill the Diamond.
Don’t scatter. Don’t pivot too fast. Choose the one idea that still makes your heart beat faster—and go deep. There is freedom in the depth. Rigor isn’t a cage; it’s a chisel.Shift the Frame.
Instead of asking “How am I doing?” ask “Who am I helping?”
Instead of “Will this work?” ask “What am I making room for?”
Creative formation isn’t about proving yourself. It’s about creating space—for light to enter, for truth to be seen.Honor the Aesthetic Call.
Whether you’re writing a book or building a business, aesthetics matters. Not in the narrow sense of style—but in the deeper sense of meaning. As Lewis and Bevan knew, aesthetics is the pursuit of meaning. You are allowed to want your life to mean something.
Last Word
The light in you doesn’t need to be brighter.
It just needs to be seen.
Formation is how we make that possible.
And if you’ve been dimmed—by fear, culture, critics, or comparison—this is your reminder:
You don’t have to stay there.
There is a way back to the light.
And the light is still calling.
✦ Want to Go Deeper?
If this post resonated with you—if you’re holding onto an ember of an idea but unsure how to give it form—I’d love to walk with you. I work with creatives, writers, entrepreneurs, and thinkers to help them find clarity, reclaim their voice, and build meaningful work that reflects the light they carry.
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